You don't need a 'Bahavior Contract'
if you understand
the 7 laws of Attraction
The word Behavior Contract already sounds like you're not using the Law of Attraction. The LAW states 'that which you give your attention to brings about more of the same behavior. SO STOP RIGHT THERE and think about what you are doing to your kids. Many parents believe they have to keep tabs on their children and make them honorable by entering into a contract so they'll promise to be good. Once again you are focused on what you don't like about your kids. In some schools they make charts to monitor kids bad behavior but rarely recognize good behavior, if ever. When was the last time you got a note saying how wonderful your kid was from a teacher?
CHORE CHARTS
Many homes also have CHORE CHARTS too. It's so much nicer to have a chart that recognizes the acts of kindness you do for each other. Try this out for a few weeks and see if it changes the energy in the household."A CHART OF KINDNESS" Each family member writes down what they recognized as being great, wonderful, helpful or what they appreciated. Doesn't that sound more rewarding than control and orders and a time frame. Who doesn't glow when they see a compliment. Your kids will enjoy seeing their name in 'lights.' Don't make a big deal if some days they're not mentioned, or want to be a part of this family event. Allow everyone to be themselves. Reflect your energy and they will want to be part of the fun. Child discipline - it works and you will find yourself doing it over and over again. That which we give our attention to expands - like more bad behavior, more discipline. This is a negative way of parenting. When I ask parents if they would work for a boss who refused to pay them if they made a mistake? They all said, "NO WAY!" But they discipline their children when they believe they have made a mistake. They get grounded, their 'happy' belongings get taken away from them. They are banned from talking to their friends, the ones that often bring them back into harmony. Everything is focus on the negative and around and around you go enforcing this negative way of parenting. If you want to learn more about raising kids and using these LAWS, then check out my ebook. Spiritual Psychology is the application not the analysis of your child. It's not a religion, it's the practice of being an enlightened being. 225 pages of great tips that will realign your family quickly with a new way of parenting. Positive parenting... Love and light and enjoy, Tricia
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